Gratitude

The more you appreciate what you have
the more you have to appreciate

philosophy

a system of thought based on rational inquiry

happiness

Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have

most important concoctions of words in English

well, I came across this long back and have not forgotten since. I got reminded of it last night and even now and I thought I will put it down for reference.

6 most important words

"I admit I made a mistake"

5 most important words

"You did a great job"

4 most important words

"what is your opinion?"

3 most important words

of course, "I love you"

2 most important words

"Thank you"

1 most important word

"We"

i love to hug

wow...i searched for a group on FB and found many and this is what a member has written on the wall.

"Millions and millions of years would still not give me half enough time to
describe that tiny instant of all eternity when you put your arms around me and I put my arms around you..."

wow wow wow

the slogan for 2010

turn it around

i will turn my life around. enough bullshit already! i will do whatever it takes to create a life worth living.

baby, turn it around

if something were to happen to you right now...

what would people think of you?

my answer to a FB q of a friend...

'they would remember how you made them feel. they would remember the times when you made them smile. they would remember a loving touch, a spontaneous hug, they would remember that you cared."

Life is a Marathon!

hey, so life is not a race---3 idiots!!!! been thinking what it could be. Actually, been looking for a metaphor for life for very long.

I got it today. Life is a a marathon, you decide how far you will go. you decide the speed. You decide the rules. wow, you decide everything. your game. your rules.

the idea is to finish, to fight yourself at every point you feel like giving up. to fall 7 times, rise 8 times.

The hUmAn WILL!

whoever told you life is easy! well it was never supposed to be and it will never be. it's tough and it's gonna get tougher.

only fighters will survive. cowards will run away, give in and burn out! there is only one thing that's tougher than life.

the strength of the human will! it can overcome any challenges thrown its way. anything.

I won first prize in an on the spot essay writing competition while I was in standard 8Th. The title was:

'where is the will, there is the way"

totd

The Arjun Sengupta Committee reported in 2007 that 836 million Indians spend no more than Rs 20 a day.

The Fighters' Spirit

just wrote this. The Fighters' credo


Stay strong, fight on
Very soon you will see light
Not yet, don't give up the fight!

Sometimes life tries you from all sides
Everything seems to fall, all over
The test is of your endurance, of will, of your power to hold on
Do not give in, it is momentary, things will change in not so long

So hold on, press on
You have faced tough times before,
Hold on to see how things will change anew
They say it over and over
Tough times don't last, but tough people do

So hold your chin high and smile like you always do
If anyone can make it, if anyone can change it, if it all rests on anyone, it's YOU
I do not believe in GOD, but the almighty powers sure have a plan,
The darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn

The dawn will come; it will be a lot of fun
Wonderful people, wonderful places, a wonderful life embrace those
Who, in the face of a ferocious battle
Battle it out and not run

It will all change, take my word
I am sure I am not wrong
You have only yourselves to fear

Stay strong, Fight on

Stay strong. Fight on!!!!

"hopelessness is the primary symptom of depression"


you know there is a massive industry out there which thrives on people losing hope and getting weak mentally and spiritually (when I say spiritually it has nothing to do with GOD. I am an atheist. I mean the strength of human spirit)

the depression and superstition industry primarily(psychiatrists, black magic, these bastardy God-men)

man is born to be destroyed but not defeated.

stay strong. fight on. till there is life, there is hope. amen.

INdia

a land of religion, sex, gutless regimes, rampant chaos and hypocrisy

bring on 2010!

It's interesting you know. I have been here, I mean in this world for quite a while now, close to 3 decades.

somehow, it appears to me that next year is going to be an extremely important year for after been so long around, life appears to be a big zero to me today!!!!!

It's very close to a do or die situation. I have no idea how people survive their whole lives in companies, jobs, relationships that don't make sense to them.

I am already choking!!!

I badly need a relationship. Someone I care for. Someone who cares for me. I really need someone who can hide me from everything when I want to be hidden

I badly need to finish my book as soon as possible. I will not be able to survive like this for long. Once the book has been published, I can afford greater risk.

Now that Capitaland said no, I may have to look for a better alternative in the near term also. yes.

so as far as my life is concerned, I urgently need to act on these on the Italics above. I will. Or I will rather die fighting. I refuse to live a cowardly life.

bring 2010 on! I will be all set for it.

IMPERTURBABLE

Incapable of being upset.

thanks, amar

I could not help recording it here! someone thanked me, thus. This atones all the mistakes of my life so far. It makes up for everything. I am finding it hard to understand the plans destiny has for me, as on today; but I know I trust myself to do what I consider just, fair and honest and that is all I can do.

The rest, is beyond me.

"Hi Amar, You have done a great job with the article.

It is not everyday that we come across a volunteer who will give up his hot-chocolate-in-bed winter morning and be with a bunch of kids and a small NGO. The one thing that comes from the bottom of my heart is this: What you have done that day, or on the day of the previous function, you have done forever. It stands done, un-erasable. The children will have permanent memories of you, your sitting with them, joking and talking with them, some may be already aspiring to become like you, have smart clothes, camera strapped around their necks, talking cool English. They will involuntarily work towards it.

It is the impression some people left on us in our childhood that made us do certain things, similarly, we are leaving impressions on some children now. I am sure many girls from the villages already have a crush on you too! I remember my school days when every visiting smart chap was an object of a crush. (Notorious girls school days!)

What I want to say is that the positivity, the kindness and the readiness that flows from you, is unique, never let go of it. Even if you come once in 15 days or a month to SY, whatever, it is that special thing that you have, of being able to give 200% on that occasion that makes you really rocking, true to your FB identity. Just keep that intact."

Steve Jobs Stanford Speech

these are excerpts from one of the best speeches ever made by any human. I love it immensely. excerpts.

"dropping out of college was one of the best things I ever did. Since, after that I stopped attending classes that did not interest me at all and started attending classes that looked far more interesting"

"connecting the dots---you can't connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards"

"love and loss- i found what I loved to do early in life. After getting fired, I realized that I still loved what I did. I have been rejected, but I was still in love. YOU HAVE GOT TO FIND WHAT YOU LOVE. THAT'S TRUE OF YOUR WORK AND TRUE OF YOUR LOVER. if you have not found it yet, keep looking. don't settle. As with all matters of heart, you will know when you will find it"

"death- if you live each day as if it was your last, someday, it will most certainly be right. if today is the day, would I want to do, what I am about to do today?! When you realize, you are going to die anytime, there is no reason not to follow your heart.

death is a destination we all share. death is the single best invention of life. your time is limited so don't waste it living someone else's life. have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Every thing else is secondary"

stay hungry, stay foolish.

totd

pay attention to the words you use. you become the words you say.

which means, if you say you are depressed, you become so. if you say you are happy, that's what you are.

eliminate all negative words from your vocabulary. By the way, did you hear, Oxford has decided to remove 'can't' and 'impossible' from the dictionaries!

have a lovely day.

one day..

one day, you will have to take the decision. to either continue living a safe, mediocre, dull, pointless life....

or put everything on the line, EVERYTHING. to realize your dreams. one day.

I cannot keep wasting my life, a day at a time!!!

I cannot keep on wasting my life, one day after another just because I have a loan!!! I mean, I come to this office everyday to a job that hardly inspires me, to say the least and waste whole day sitting here!!!

why?! because I want a salary at the end of the month to feed myself and pay my loan.

so what's the alternative:

it is this. put everything on the line. propel myself at life full throttle and do everything I love to do and make money out of it. Turn my passions into profit and money. live life in its essence.

that will take time. lets say i take 20 years to pay back the loan. but I will be enjoying my life. I will be doing things that I love to do and getting better at them. I know I am good. I will find ways to make money.


to be considered. when i am done publishing the first book. actually I am getting so frustrated that I may not wait for my first book. But I should. Else, it's too risky. Extremely dangerous.

change the world!

people who are CrAzY enough to believe that they can change the world....
are the ones who actually do so

Relationships!

I do not believe in unhappy relationships! Period.

One day....

said this while in a casual conversation with deepo ;) thought will post it here for future reference.

the way life is going right now, I will not be able to continue like this for long. I am frustrated with most things and there is hardly any ZING in the life of Amarocks Singh Zing!!!

well, i know, one day, I will reach a stage where I will tell myself that it cannot go anymore like this and cannot just continue to live this.....

SAFE, LIFELESS, BORING AND POINTLESS LIFE. I will not be able to bear the hopeless emptiness beyond that point, the hopeless emptiness!

that day, my life will start. for now, I want to be safe, hating myself, knowing that may be if I throw myself full throttle with every thing I WANT to do, I may get the life of my dreams! when i know that either I WIN or PERISH

one day.

Neber Eber give up on life!

giving up was not a choice then. I did not. I survived to see this day.

these are not the best of times either. giving up is still not a choice.

it will never be.

totd!

My life, badly, badly, needs a re-formatting!

totd

one day you will stand before your GOD and ask why did life turn out this way?! he will question you back and say, well...i sent you to be happy, figure your way out and make choices that bring cheer to you and your folks! you screwed up and now you are blaming me!!! go to hell! :P

totd

12/11/2009
Tiger Woods taking hiatus from golf
By Tiger Woods

I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt that my infidelity has caused to so many people, most of all my wife and children. I want to say again to everyone that I am profoundly sorry and that I ask forgiveness. It may not be possible to repair the damage I've done, but I want to do my best to try.

I would like to ask everyone, including my fans, the good people at my foundation, business partners, the PGA Tour, and my fellow competitors, for their understanding. What's most important now is that my family has the time, privacy, and safe haven we will need for personal healing.

After much soul searching, I have decided to take an indefinite break from professional golf. I need to focus my attention on being a better husband, father, and person.

Again, I ask for privacy for my family and I am especially grateful for all those who have offered compassion and concern during this difficult period.

the lone pianist

I was in a mall the other day- ambience mall and was waiting to see someone. Since I was walking idly, I came across this guy sitting in the middle of the long ground floor in the mall, playing a piano.

I sat there listening to him for about 25 minutes. He was playing some old classics from Bollywood. He also played the Titanic Song.

He had no one around him, just some people like me, listening to him. The world was passing by- talking, shopping, looking for a fraction of a second. He was playing. Apparently, he was enjoying himself; I could see him tapping his feet to the rhythm of the songs that he was playing on the piano.

There is a point in all of what I have said above. I am not sure how to extract it out. May be it's there in the title of the post! may be it's somewhere in the body. it's there where you may find it.

hold on. press on. it's not over till it's over.

i have quoted this quote many times in the past. i am quoting this again and i will quote it in future.


the darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn.

share the lessons!

If you made big mistakes and learnt big lessons, share the lessons with others; so they don't make the same mistakes. If you want to live a dignified, respectful and worthy life, we are all in this together.

they tell me I am a fool

ha! when they tell me I am a fool, I agree with them! and then, I do what I want.

My life is not a formality

Life's meant to be intense, not shallow, superficial!
Some people go through life just because they are born, forlorn! Such a pity!!!! I need a reason for every step, life's not a formality!

smile on!

smile for the sake of cheer and grace
no one changed a thing on earth with a frown, tense and grumpy face

this was shared by deepti this morning! quite like it. so blogging it.

When ya feel sad, and times are bad-
Sometimes it’s hard to smile.
Some days are rough, and I know it’s tough-
To walk that extra mile.
I’ve come to know, that time moves slow
Waiting for the sunshine.
Sometimes you’ll cry, or wonder why-
Starring to the starts above.
But there’s a way, I’ve heard them say-
To mend a broken heart.
You must believe, in yourself-
Through these times that were apart.
It’s just the breaks, from life’s mistakes-
You’ve heard this all before.
So just stay strong, it won’t be long-
Till I’m walking out these gates.
Because good things come to people
Who are strong enough to wait…..

yes, smile.

"Hold your chin up and smile like you always do! If anybody can do it, it's you."

thanks harini

thought of a tough day!

Sometimes, when it gets tough to smile and the spirit strains to fight; i remind myself over and over to hold on, for in a long journey, this stretch may just be a mile!

and then...I look at the man in the mirror and force him to smile :)

RECLAIM YOUR LIFE BACK!!!

I am angry. yes. of late, life has been playing truant and I have lost quite a bit of control.

I guess I must admit fault to some extent. I have not been proactive enough or I have not been cautious enough.

whatever it is, I HaTe THE RESULTS that this year has produced!

on the personal front, one decision we took as a family went awfully wrong! I have not been able to find a partner for myself either because I have procrastinated, although there have been genuine reasons as well! everything needs to be fixed and I AM THE ONE WHO WILL FIX IT.

on the professional front, there is nothing exciting! I will find a way to change the situation or find a way out!

One good thing has been that I managed to start the book, but even not been giving time there either for long now!

this is exactly what I am going to do. Go back home today and give me a plan with deadlines attached. The plan should cover all of these disturbances and the proposed solutions.

Get rid of the irritants! Find some more roses. Fix your life!

HoW is this possible?!

you know, sometimes, when I am out; when I talk and people are listening incredulously; even I listen to them incredulously;

i think that there is a sea of difference between the way they think and i think. there is.

I do not understand this world. It does not understand me.

"The world and I have very similar feelings towards each other. When we think about each other, we wonder, "how is this possible?"

totd!

maana kabi josh'e himmat jung me ho jaati hai kam,
par tujse vaada hai ae zindgi,
ki haar nahi maanege hum, haar nahi manenge hum

relationships determine the quality of life!

relationships are like plants we choose to grow. sometimes we choose rose seeds and get wonderful flowers. if we falter in choosing the seed, we end up with cactus. the moment you realize the mistake, root out the cactus! don't waste time, it will only cause more pain.

the quality of our lives is directly proportional to the quality of people we spend time with. surround yourself with roses.

Wow!

The WoW

Weaver of words

my core belief on optimism!

The fundamental belief says, "as long as we are alive, nothing is a big deal".

Practically nothing. Every problem is temporary and I do not know anyone I have met, who has not bee through tough times. We all have our share and that is the way it is supposed to be.

The only big deal is death, which is something we should always be conscious of. It can come any day, anytime.

amar-the incurable optimist

totd!

'atithi devo bhav' is what we say. "atithi ko lootlo sab" is what we follow.

bloody hypocrite nation. i will come to the hypocrisies one by one.

The Mind! one of the best thoughts on my page

the mind is its own place and in there,

the people called thoughts can make hell out of heaven and heaven out of hell!

yea...i modified it :)

never ever be taken for granted!

my message on fb this morning. yeah, reflective of the stuff in my mind.

do not allow any jerk in this world to take you for granted!! the moment someone knows you will always be around no matter what, you will be treated like trash. be sincere to your bit and go around with an impression that you will leave if not cared for and bloody well dare to mean it. good day folks.

thought of the day. wow

A society grows great when old men plant trees whose shade they know they shall never sit in. -Greek Proverb

thoughts of the day!

running is to humans what flying is to birds :)

one must be one's own inspiration. cheers!

emotions are infectious!

emotions are infectious! all of them. smiles are. happiness is. so is sullen behaviour!

no grump deserves to be anyone's boss!

imperturbability is the hallmark of an excellent manager.

imperturbable (incapable of being upset or agitated; not easily excited; calm)

thought of the day!

Thanx Amrocks..you rock....Ashutosh Shelat!

thanks ashutosh! long time I heard this. this is how the brand amarocks was created to start with :)

bohemian!

a person, as an artist or writer, who lives and acts free of regard for conventional rules and practices.

Accountability!

I agree with the quote..."tell the world what you are going to do, but first show it."

However, I do think it is a good idea to share your plans and goals with people you think care. Why? It is bacause they will keep asking you for progress and you will stay accountable! cheers.

Another thought. I shared my card with a friend who liked it as everyone does! However, she looked at "health freak" and questioned me with a naughty look because I was coughing! And it reminded me to stay true to what my card says.

so you see, transparency also helps me in staying accountable! I think it's important.

do not be a loser!

If you are not happy with the state of things, don't get sad, get ANGRY! fight, you bloody coward! fight! protest! speak out! live with your head high or perish.

i am sick of people who love to be victimized. they love to complain about what people do to them or life does to them or whatever! they have been victimized and go around with a sorry face! can't you fight? can't you protest and say to yourself that you will not tolerate any trash?!

where the hell is your self esteem? when did we all learn to live this way.

fight or perish! refuse to be a victim. refuse to be a loser!

Attitude!

No matter how you feel, get up, get ready and show up!

INDI-A

I broke down the word INDIA into INDI-A. it stands for Indifference-Abound

a comment from a friend!

here is what a friend said to me today when i said that I mentioned something about control------

"why would you need to control yourself?! we like the wild uncontrolled you" :)

cheers buddy! love it.

totd!

ae mushlikon, parakh lo hamen jitna,
har dard hamne chakha hai
meetha ho, ya teekha

zindgi se haar marna
hamne nahi seeka!

cheers

totd

i am not well and i am not picking calls.

the reason is very simple. there is no reason why someone should call me and hear a botched up voice saying 'i am not well' and then they ask, "kya hua?" and then i explain my sordid story! i think its terrible to seek sympathy! i will be back when i am okay.

ya. that's about it.

The books I want to write!

at this stage, i can only say that i want to write these books. i feel strongly about many subjects and there is a lot i have to say. i know i have never written professionally before and i do not know how this is going to go. but i know one thing and that is, i have taken the first step, in faith.

a book from my blog (i am being smart, this will help me achieve my goal :) )
the man who hated mathematics
happiness and optimism
success
i envision a world on first name basis

i have some more ideas also, but i will post them later.

this is the journey towards the essence of life!

TOTD

Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.....menchie's post on FB

My target segment!

it does not matter that only a few in every generation will grasp the full reality of man's proper stature and the rest will betray it. it is those few that move the world and give life its meaning-it is those few that I have always sought to address. The rest are no concern of mine".....fountainhead, ayn rand

i am a heretic

heretic:

anyone who does not conform to an established attitude, doctrine, or principle.

my battle with all generalizations, with all thoughtless notions carried over generations, with everything that does not make sense, that's not fair, with indifference will begin soon. will be fun :)

Rog!

a friend just shared this with me. I laughed to my heart's content. arz kiya hai,

duniya me sabse badaa rog
mere baare me kya kahenge log!

what they say about me!

you know some people think that I am a jerk, freak, useless, crazy or whatever suits them. I ignore them.

There are some people who have said really nice things to me. They believe in me. I cherish what they say, like everyone does. Here are some excerpts.

'Hi, though I have not had a chance to speak to you properly but I would like to tell you that you are a great person with a superb attitude which gives me a kick to do something about myself. I like your positivity, enthusiasm and zest for life.'------a batch mate in MBA (won't mention the name)

'Amarjeet, you are a gem of a person'-----a friend now lost

'tere jaisa sacha insan maine aj tak nahi dekha'----a friend now lost

'i always enjoy listening to you'

'Amar-do not ever change'

'tu kaise upar chala jaega pata hi ni chalega :)' --KV

'out of this world :)- pallo'

I promise you folks. I will do whatever it takes to stand up to what you think of me. I will not let you down.

My stance on GOD!

Here is my stance of God, once and for all.

I am an atheist. I do not believe in the existence of a GOD. I do not want to get into this discussion. I do not challenge anyone's faith but do not ask me to follow anything just because you do.

It is not fair to me. And let me just be.

I do not care who created the world or who was the first couple to reproduce. I do not give a damn.

There is no entity called God. I believe in the almighty powers like

nature
destiny

i have no clue how destiny is formed and why some people have the best of all worlds and some people do not have food on their plate! But that gives me no rational reason to go to a temple and kneel and make some sort of a prayer to I don't know who!

it did not make any sense to me and I got irritated with lying to myself and pretending to be saying something in the temple! ok

in hibernation! whatever it takes!

we will talk about, dream, yearn, crave to be what we inherently want to be--- all our lives. either we will have spent our lives living our dreams or wishing that we did!! how would you tell anyone to follow their dreams when you did not follow yours! folks, i am going in partial hibernation for a while. will be back!

i am in hibernation till i get my book ready. The goal must be met. I am putting everything on hold. including finding my girl.

watever it takes. come hell or high tides. come what may. i will be a writer.p.s i will access the blog.

Life

well, if life would choose to behave this way--------we are at war!

Marriage and Age

here is my conclusion.

Age has nothing to do with marriage. NOTHING

it is much more important to know if you are marrying the right person than it is to know if you will be able to make any babies or not!!! who cares?! i mean think about it!

people marry early because they think that age will cross and they will not be able to reproduce!! hello!! what kind of a reason is that?! i am not saying it's not important, what i am saying just do not marry anyone you do not even know properly just because you must have children!!


its preposterous and it's all pervasive!!


i reject the idea. here is a reason to get married.

you know someone you do not want to live without and vice versa. :)

copyright-amar, the thought factory :)

RED!

RED! my favorite color! the color of power, of passion, of romance, of boldness, of success. RED

you are your favorite color....amarocks!

My idols

You know I do not actually care about everything that happens in this world. who does anyways?!

I am interested in what i am interested in. And there are some people I highly admire in each of those fields. These people inspire me. They continue to define the underlying reasons at times for what I do. Yes, they inspire me. I call comfortably call them my idols.

Lets look at some of my passions and the people I admire in that field;-

Business- I admire a lot great great businessmen who have changed the world. They are reason for the kind of lifestyle we live today. For example, I can write this blog because Bill Gates and Microsoft help me have a computer with the software that runs them. Google helpe me find anything i want. Sunil Mittal puts voice into my Mobile phone. And the likes.

However, I must identify someone who inspires me the most for his attitude towards the business, his personality, for he is the brand. I love Richard Branson. I love him. His life has been a dream. Incredible. The way he has acheived whatever he has achieved without giving a damn what the world thinks of him. There are hardly many management books which won't have a mention of him.

Yes, my idol in Business-----Richard Branson

Politics and Public Speaking----i love Barack Obama. Every time I hear him speak, something within me, changes. He inspires me to the core. I have read his autobiography and a know about his beginning and life. It's not fluff. He has had a tremendous life which was not easy growing up as a Black American in a white prejudiced country and with a father who only saw him once!!!

He just received the Nobel Peace Prize. I do not want to get into its rightness but I know he stands for what he says. Till BO happened, I did not have any idols in Politics, anywhere. Now i have.


Writing---oh, this one is tough. I read a lot and many people through their writing have left indelible marks on my conscience. I aim to be a professional writer also. So, this one is tough. I know I cannot ignore Dale Carnegie, who completely changed me as a person. Ayn Rand's writing is like a intellectual orgasm at every page. Sensational. I love her writing, although I picked the 'fountainhead' very late. And Jack Canfield who has categorically broken down every single element of success which I swear by. So these 3 make the list, although there are many more.

The marriage of my sister!

My sister just got married. I love her and I miss her, although I won't tell her.

you know, she has a new home now. she actually has two homes now. we have new relatives. this was perhaps the most important decision we have made as a family. It looks a wise decision made so far.

i like my brother in law or this marriage would not have happened i guess ;) for such a selfish creature I am haha. Actually my sister also likes him, which I believe is more important.

the thing is, you see, when a girl gets married, she changes. I think the same is true for a man also. It is a transformation or at least supposed to be so.

I think i love my sister even more now. I have high respect for her, for her love and the contribution she has made to this family. I know it. I also know she will make a similar contribution to the family she is a part of now.

i am happy i was here to attend the marriage and be a part of it. it could have been otherwise. i do not know what meetu seeks when she looks in our eyes now, after marriage. i do not know what is she thinking. I do not know what kind of thoughts are crossing her mind. I am happy that her husband will take care of her. He and his family are really loving.

I do not know what the hell have i been writing! anyways, all the best meetu. i am always around :)

love

love is a tickle. You know it will bother you and you also know it will pleasure you. you resist it. you invite it ;)

Animalistic Thoughts :D

every morning in africa, a lion wakes up. it knows it must run faster than the fastest gazelle or it will starve to death. every morning in africa, a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the lion or it will be eaten to death.

it does not matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle. When the sun comes up, BETTER BE RUNNING


Run like a Tiger
Love like a dog
Sleep like a cat
Dance like a peacock

love

'love' is a verb, when you say, 'i love you'. if it's not felt by the one you claim to love, worthless! it's the essence of who you stand for and stand by. don't trivialize it. don't. say 'i love u' if you really mean it, can show it, will do to whatever it takes to keep these words meaningful.

Fighters

Fighters, fight.

rocky bolboa

it ain't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. how much you can take and keep moving forward. that's how winning is done..

thought of the day!

i believe there is a hero in all of us who keeps us honest, gives us strength, makes us noble and finally allows us to die with pride....from the Spiderman

thought of the day!

life is equal to risk. if you have never failed, you have never lived.

success!

when you want success as badly as you need air, you will get it

The color of character

If the color of your character is pretty, i do not give a damn about the color of your skin, the history of your race, the complexity of your religion!

Forgiving Myself!

Perhaps one of the toughest challenges I have. Sometimes, I commit very foolish mistakes, like banging the car into a stationary pillar! what was i thinking!! i do not understand! may be my mind is too excited or disturbed and thats what leads to this happening. But then, you see, INTELLIGENT MISTAKE is an oxymoron, ain't it? A mistake is a mistake is a mistake.

it causes me pain to pain someone or something, my car in this case. it's an emotional leakage or a financial leakage as a result of a seemingly foolish mistake.

i need to be easy on myself. isn't? i did not do it deliberately. people commit even bigger mistakes; like forsaking their education and as a result of it, leading a pauper's life!! marrying idiots and having their entire life screwed up!!!

i do not know if it is a good way of understanding it, but I need to be more forgiving to myself. isn't?

may be i need a driver also ;)

The Essence of Marriage

Now on my sister's wedding card :)

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There are too many trifles in life
and a few pivotal moments

Of all things, as men and women
We go through, whilst we survive,
The most important, the most sacred
Is the union of two lives!

Who decide to follow a common course
Live the journey of life together
Through whatever comes their way,
Through pleasant or stormy weather!

Them seeking and with a promise of
Love, care and companionship
Now and hereafter, in our mind, heart and being
Not just ours, each others' lives we carry

This is really what happens,
When two people decide to marry!

the joy of giving

give something to a someone. to a child, to a beggar, to someone you know will not be able to return to you.

give something in earnest. enjoy the feeling. make the world a better place

amar----the writer

when i am angry, i write. when i am confused, i write. when i am emotive, i write. when i am happy, i write.

i write

EGO

when i disagree with you, i am not saying that you are a fool, please, you egotist! all i am saying is that you may consider this point of view also! you see, people with an inferiority complex tend to find excuses to get hurt!!!!!

when i say sorry, i mean

'i know you trust me and believe that i had a reason for being unusual this time and i hope you understand'

home

home is a place where they understand you. it is a place where you do not have to be conscious about being yourself. It is a place where they listen to you, where they love you, you love them.

be yourself!

at all costs. whatever it takes.

wherever you go, some idiot will try to make you do what he thinks is right, to conform to his/her way of thinking. it's a constant battle to be yourself and to stand for what you consider just. huh, so be it!

live your strengths-----the greatest lesson of my life

you cannot foment interest for something. you can not. if you naturally like something, great, excellent, go for it. if you do not like something, there is NO WAY ON EARTH YOU CAN MAKE YOURSELF LIKE IT! do not waste your time improving your weaknesses. ignore them.

enjoy your strengths. strengthen them. enjoy life.

totd!

okay, alright, when life gives you a lemon, make a lemonade. what else can you do?! but keep looking for fresh juice! :-D

what who why where when how?

what is to be done?
who will do it?
why is it the right thing to do?
by when it will be done?
where is it to be done?
how will it be done?

this is all we need to know to make any progress in life.

amar-the-hugger

I saw a doc yesterday who told me that to survive i need to hug people, as many as possible. so this is the deal. If i like you and you happen to fall within my circumference, i will hug you :-P

Buddha

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

Buddha

wow wow wow

leadership

it takes a leader to step into a vacuum.

ordinary people need a lot of ground already built up

totd

be obstinate by all means, all progress depends on someone with conviction saying- "this is the way things will be done"

heaven!

have you ever imagined what heaven would be like??? imagiine!!

a man and woman relationship

your partner is either your greatest support system, which is what I am looking for. if not, your greatest pain.

disagree!

It's important to know that you disagree. it's even important to have the guts to express that you disagree.

you see, one of the things about me is, that I disagree a lot. With my papa :), my friends, my boss, my colleagues! somehow i tend to have a different point of view and so it is not quite easy to talk to me.

i like people who disagree with me also. who wants sycophants! Have the freedom to have a point of view. always. If it is different, say it.

totd!

growing old is inevitable. growing up is optional :)

thought of the day!

"Be as detailed as you like, but keep it to one page"

sophisticated yet simple!

you know, i have argued with people on this way of describing things! I like to describe things and people I like or tend to like as sophisticated yet simple :) because thats what they are.

people who are smarter than many professionally and simple in their manners and behaviour. things which look simple but have all the features and techno stuff inside.

you see, sophisticated yet simple :)

change something, for the better

we need achievement to thrive on, even if it comes in titbits. make effort to improve something in your life every single day - "growth is life"

go make new mistakes!

try something new. see something new. experience something new. time will pass anyways. if you screw up, it will still be less painful than nothing ever tried. you can't really make anything if you can't make a mistake. make some. some that... you never made before

The Measure of a Man

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in front of comfort and convenience but where he stands in front of challenge and controversy! wow

"have to"..........................yuck!

this is the phrase i hate the most in english language. I hate it, i despise it. I never ever want to say it. I hate to do anything that I "have to" !

i do things because i see meaning. i do things because they help my life or the lives of those i love. i do things because i want to.

attitude!

you laugh at me because i am different. i laugh at you because you are all the same. :P

The importance of a smile!

a smile is to humans what sunshine is to flowers!

you see, how important it is. I agree with this statement big time. We crave for smiles, don't you? please smile at me when you see me haha....

DARE!

The pain of not doing something is far greater than doing something
wrong. yes! go for it.


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dare!

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you're feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you've done your best.
Dare to be the best you can At all times, Dare to be!

Character

a shining object may turn out to be a worthless stone or even a pearl! you won't know until you check it out! it's important to shine outside to be noticed, what's more important is the source of the shine......it's either the character or it's cosmetics :D

be like a sapphire, precious and rare; not like a stone, found everywhere

Facts of life!

thoughts of the day!

Dogs will bark. Learn to work inspite of them. There are no perfect decisions. You are bound to screw up. Indian roads and traffic are a royal mess. Anything can hit you from anywhere, anytime. They will do anything in the name of obfuscated words like religion and culture. Mobs will continue holding the Indian government to ransom. 'After all, we are a democracy' is the excuse hypocrites will keep citing to condone all problems. People will continue to marry without having a clue about who they are marrying to. Sex is a taboo in India, children are born in tubewells. You will not know who caused the recession but you will be hit. A few caucasians will continue to think they are somewhat superior. Indians are not racial at all, I don't know who created the words 'chinkis/goras'. May be someone understands North Korea/Zimbabwe/Financial bailouts. No one will ever understand women. Facts do not cease to exist just because you ignore them. Life is beautiful.

totd!

1% success rate is better than none. you miss 100% of the shots you do not take. keep hitting. if you throw a lot of gum on the wall, some is bound to stick. it will. it does.

celebrate

"The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate."

things that money can't buy!

missing things that money can't buy...
the gaze of love, the touch of care, the hug that cures all
wonder if i have gone wrong
or just that love is too shy...

missing things that money can't buy

life!

life means different things to different people. it should. whatever it does mean to you, it should be something you deeply love. i think for me, life is a stage and i am the showman :D

competition!

I denounce the popularly accepted definition of competition around the world causing people to go mad. i have realised this after having going mad! i am not competing with anyone out there. i am not trying to catch up with anyone. period. i compete with myself. competition for me means to exceed the standards i set for my own self, to be a better person today than i was yesterday. it's my race. my story. There is no external competition. You are a blue ocean, unprecedented, unique, special. do not insult yourself by wasteful comparisons.

Results!!

you see. my point is that "results only show up when they want to"

they are heartless jerks. You keep working in pain, agony, wondering if the search and toil will ever end and you will succeed! remember my journeys to get an MBA! for example, that is...

my problem is that I will not compromise with life and just accept whatever it throws my way. there is no point saying that my patience is running out. If there have been no results so far, if what you started out for has not been accomplished, you will need more patience. There is no choice, you will have to hold on.

there is another choice. give up. A big Nooooo.

so hold on till you succeed. life is such.

period.

TOTD

never ever accept a goal that you think you will not be able to hit. never. underpromise-overdeliver//overperform

TOTD

the journey is the reward. the destinations only lead to new journeys after a brief moment of celebration. hop on to journeys you have always wanted to be on.

Independence Day

"India’s independence day"

I was born in India. I did not choose it. I mean, imagine, no one asked me, if I would like to be born in India! Is that fair? I was lucky enough to be born in an independent country. History tells me that British ruled India for close to 200 years. Phew! You see, it is so difficult to believe that a few thousand, let’s say a few lakhs, I do not know what the total number of British was, ruled millions of Indians! Yes, you read it right na. Divide and rule. Why do you think that it was easy to divide Indians? It was because we were already divided. They officially created the lines and made us fight with each other. After all, two people living in the same house, jealous of each other, can be easily made to fight! The British who ruled us were barbaric, heartless, mindless b*******. We supported the B***** because we fought with each other. There were patriots who died for the cause of Independence. We should be proud of them, have you not been taught? Do you feel it?

All right, Henry Ford said, history is bunk. So you agree with it, okay? I do. It is bunk. What happened, happened. Let’s cut to 21st century. Gujarat, 2002. No,
don't want to talk about it? Why? It is because we are this great nation and we only do things like killing innocent men and children, raping women, burning houses, vandalizing public property, becoming the second largest populated country in the world- we do not talk about these things. Why? We are a great nation, na, baba. Thousands of people get killed and no one gets punished. You see, you cannot hold anyone responsible when a mob goes on a rampage. But who puts the mob on the roads? And why does no one gets shot?

Let’s talk about population. No, we do not talk about population. Haaw, you do not talk about where kids come from! You see. You know, it’s a taboo. You do not talk about sex. Haaw. I said that word! No government since the independence has had the guts to implement a policy on population. Why? For what they won't do, how should they preach? It's a chaos in every city. It takes hours to complete distances which should otherwise take minutes! But then, who cares?

Chalta hai, haina?!

I live in Gurgaon. It is the millennium or the cyber city or the Singapore of India or something. There is no electricity for half the day, the roads in interiors are broken and the likes. I have had the fortune of spending some time in Singapore. Gurgaon will not reach there in decades. Please go prove me wrong if someone can. I will be delighted.

How about some of the national habits of this so called upcoming superpower?! Digging the nose, fondling the crotch, spitting wherever they want, pissing around for there are no public toilets! We fight over religion, caste, culture on the drop of a hat. We have no respect for women as a nation.

You see, do not get me wrong. But please do get me. Facts do not cease to exist just because we choose to ignore them. I am thankful for the education I got here which has made me conscious of my surroundings and given me the ability to write this article. I am thankful for the wonderful people I get to spend time with in India.

But as a young Indian, I want more. I would have liked to see more happen. I want to see more happen. I hate corruption, nepotism, rioters, and chaos! I like transparency, order, performance and human equality irrespective of the origin. I want India to realize its potential and become the great country that the visionaries who died for her saw her as.

All the best, respected PM. I and my generation expect a lot from you and your team.

Happy Independence Day

zing

what a sexy word :)


Main Entry: zing
Part of Speech: noun

Definition: liveliness
Synonyms: brio, dash, drive, energy, enthusiasm, get-up-and-go, go,
gusto, life, oomph, pep, pizzazz, punch, sparkle, spirit, verve,
vigor, vim, vitality, zest, zip, élan

totd

First I was dying to finish high-school and start college. Then I was
dying to finish college and start working. Next, I was dying for my
children to grow old enough for school, so I could return to work.
Finally, I was dying to retire. And now, I am dying!!!!

TOTD!

do not look for people to depend on, become someone they can look to depend on....

being impractical!

well, so many people have called me impractical in the last few years, especially people who got close to me!

the thing is, i guess i am an impractical man because I dare to follow my heart and do what it says than follow the "practical norms" set by the society.

I will rather be called impractical than compromise with their mediocrity! so be it.

i am an impractical man, for all you care! watch me go and acheive what you call impractical.

i loved this

a couple of phrases i read online somewhere that I loved:


a pinch of madness

a slice of life

here is how you evaluate your decisions!

alright, something important happened yesterday and I thought about it haha, whats new about it!

anyways, the point is what I thought. isn't this blog after all about what I think?!

when you take a new step in life, evaluate it in terms of how happy you feel about it. The point isn't that at a later point when the goal is accomplished you will feel happier, the point is at the first step of moving towards the goal, do you feel happy and elated? how about the next step?

if you feel happy, it is a good step. It's worth taking.

otherwise doubt it. If you body is moving slowly and mind is wandering, doubt it.

doubt everything that does not make you happy. when in doubt, don't.

success is happiness. amen!

the finest people i have met!

okie...i am starting this series today citing examples of amazing people I have met in my journey of life so far. Let me cite a few names to start with:

Dr. Vijay Sethi ex-dean SPJCM
COO SATS, Mr. Karmjit Singh
Professor Ram Kumar, Marketing

these are 3 people i could recall to get started right now. Dr. Vijay Sethi speaks to enthrall his audiences and he is the man who could have finished me before I started but he saved me.

Mr. Karmjit Singh, 60, present COO of SATS is a genius. He questions everything he hears or looks at. He always looks thinkign something, has an amazing sense of humor and tremedous personality. One of the most aggressive and inspiring people I have met though his aggression is intimidating at times.

Prof Ram Kumar- how can I forget you, Sir. I know you will never read this but you are one of the most creative and powerful personalities I will ever get to meet. I brought tears to your eyes once. I hope you liked what I wrote for you. Keep spreadin the energy that you emanate every minute.

concept chart

http://www.importanceofphilosophy.com/Chart.html

here is a starter on my pursuit of philosophy....

Reality!

"Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what
we believe. What we believe is based upon our percepts. What we
perceive depends on what we look for. What we look for depends on what
we perceive. What we perceive determines what we believe. What we
believe determines what we take to be true. What we take to be true is
our reality."

don't mess with me!

okay, i tell you what. My foot is still paining and hate the bastard
who hit me! here is my conclusion over 2 days of thinking about the
incident....

"i will not bother you, you do not bother me also. If you cause me pain, i will go outa my way to screw your life! let no bastard go scot-free to go around hurting others!

don't mess with me.

a month in India ah!

;) haha i like starting or closing anything with haha coz it changes the entire tenor of the conversation...haha

well today I complete one month after having been arrived in India after a long gap of 2 years almost. Its still the same. I have changed as usual. I am always in a state of flux. I have a new job and I have kind of adjusted with my singaporean colleagues, not quite sure if they like me or not. Not that I quite care till they hate me or something!

by the way, I bought a new car;). That's the good news. The same day, had an accident where 3 hooligans on a bike ran on my left foot and almost fractured it! It has survived though and I am relaxing today. I was not looking and I admitted it and let them go, which made them even more audacious to tell me that I may have hurt their bike! bastards! I should not have let them go! I think my belief, "do not wrestle with pigs, you get dirty and the pig likes it" has been harmful in a way to me when I deal with such idiots. you cannot deal with animals with sophistication! you need to talk in their language if it comes to it!

watever....the good thing is I have an I10 now, one of the latest cars in the market haha thanks to everyone at home, i did not have to take a loan.

ok lah! i miss singapore. it is perhaps the most gorgeous places to live in and I will live in it one day! for now, there are a lot of things to do. I survived another accident...so destiny has its plans.....they need me yar...loads of them! do not let me go too soon haha

ok thats it for now....life goes on as it always has...i will not let it fritter away, be it India or singapore or wherever I am.....amar is a force for creation and contribution; indefatigable, unstoppable!

TOTD!

did today really matter?!

success and happiness...

are not 2 different objectives.

I am going to say something that I will preach for the rest of my life....

Success is HAPPINESS!!!

if you are not happy doing whatever you are doing today, if you are
doing something you hate or something you dislike- you are leaning
against the wrong ladder!!!!! you are climbing the wrong mountain!!
it's not a target meant for you, not worth pursuing!

if you are not happy doing what you are doing today, you are not
successful! you life is a failure....not matter how much money you
have made and whatever you have achieved in material terms!

success is happiness
success is victory doing what you love!

if you are doing what you love essentially, naturally, man you are a success....

happiness is the key to success! do what makes you happy, follow
people who make you happy, do whatever it takes to bring a smile to
your heart, it will come to your lips brightly. and contribute to this
world in your own way by doing what you are sent here to do!

RoCk oN Baby!

orkut thought of the day

Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right!

this hit me. you know what because I tend to do things and not do things sometimes because either they are morally right or not. And this thought seems to divide both the issues as if morals and being right are 2 different things!

may be they are! i will give it some thought. My morals have prevented me from doing many things at different times. Bastards, them! ;)

ah, he was so talented but...

Talent is cheaper that table salt. There is nothing more common that wasted talent.
What requires talent to turn into victory and success is a never ending supply of hard work, persistence, perseverance, dedication, dogged minded pursuit of the outcome and a never say die spirit!

no matter what you do, do not quit!

TOTD

a man's mind elevated to a higher level does not return to its usual dimensions

yesterday

i was a different person yesterday. i took some decisions which caused me pain. That was the best I could do then with what I knew.

I am what I am today because of what I learned yesterday. There are no mistakes, only lessons.

every mistake i made was a blessing because it has made me what I have become.

success

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. if you are doing what you love inherently, congenitally, man you are successful! thats all there is to it.

TOTD

there is no meaning in this world; create your own. there are no standard set of morals; find your own. there is no right path; create your own. do you realize why they call it a do it yourself thing?

hugger!

i need hugs and i want to give hugs. basically, i want to be known for hugs ;) i want to be known as a hugger!

so i guess one of the things I am gonna do is get a "need a hug?" tattoo embossed at a conspicuous place on my body soon.....haha

where? I have no clue. what I know is we need hugs to survive. I need many. desperately ;)

money and materialistic pursuits!

many people cling to materialistic things...they keep buying more and more, as if expecting a hug out of them

.......Tuesdays with morrie

eyes!

there are so many pairs of eyes that talk to you everyday. some say, "i dun care", some say, "who the hell are you", some say, "i dun quite trust what you say", very few pairs say "i will miss you when you are not there, you mean a lot to me"....which ones would you like the most?

haha stupid question!

~RED~

i am wearing a red shirt today. I met our COO in the corridor and he happened to ask me, "you are wearing red today. Is it a sign of danger?" I could only say, no it's not a sign of danger! I mean, I could think of nothing better that very moment!

In fact, I know what does RED represent. RED is the sign of success, of love, of intensity, of passion, of energy, of everything superlative and vibrant about life. This is what RED means to me.

I know it I knew it even then. Just that I did not find it appropriate to tell it to him. May be I am lying, to myself. May be I was scared that he will know what RED means to me! I do not know why. That moment is over. And I do not think that I handled that moment very well!

It will not be repeated. For I know what RED means to me.

Words are contracts!

My words are contracts. If I do not perform what I say I will, either to myself or to anyone else, I am liable to damages and/or punishment.

This is how important I think it is to keep my word.

Good or bad for you, I expect the same from my people. I have no time to waste. I will not waste yours. Do not waste mine.

if you do not value time,
if you do not value your words,
if you do not value your commitments

you value nothing and there is nothing you deserve.

TOTD

Happiness... it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort." - Vincent Van Gogh

FLUFF!

too many people people saying too many things they have no clue about! too many forced conversations, fluff all over!

a rabbit and a wolf!

A wolf and a rabbit enter into a bet. The wolf forces the rabbit or it will kill it. That is the only chance the rabbit has. They decide to run and the wolf tells the rabbit,

"if I catch you, I will eat you and if I cannot catch you, I will never come after you"

the bet is agreed upon and hence begins the race. The rabbit runs and the wolf runs after it, runs and runs and runs but cannot catch the rabbit! It gives up.

Having lost the bet, the wolf cannot believe it. It asks the rabbit, "how did you run so fast that I could not catch you?" and the rabbit replies, after heaving a sigh of relief

"you were running for your food, I was running for my life"

It's not who you are fighting, it's what you are fighting for!

TOTD

hug a stranger

there are no strangers and we are all craving for human touch

thought of the day

we will act with courage, rectitude (rightness of principle or conduct) and resolve

we will say in public what we say in private


President Barack Obama

ships!

ships are not built to be docked at the harbor but to wrestle the seas to achieve a purpose!

one of the most powerful quotes I have come across. one that defines me

we will talk about what we love all our lives!

I met this guy in the morning who said that he wanted to be a pilot always and could not walk on the path of becoming one so far....and he thinks it is too late now may be because he is 22!!!!

well he is only 22! a whole life is in front of him! I told him, " you know Terence, you will talk about this for the rest of your life, that you wanted to be a pilot! And will not be one."

you see, how true is this! we will talk about things we love deeply today, tomorrow, till the last day of our lives. The difference will be either we will live our lives living and doing what we love or wishing that we did.

for people like Terence, there should be no stopping them. Besides being born in a developed country, just 22, he can put his finger on one thing that he wants more than anything else. That is, to want to be a pilot.

how many of us can do that? to put our finger on one thing we want to dedicate all our life to. like Tiger Wood does to golf. like Roger Federer does to Tennis, Sachin Tendulkar to Cricket, Mohammed Younis to Grameen Banks, Amitabh Bachchan to Acting, Howard Schulz to Coffee, Jack Canfield/Ayn Rand to writing, Bill Gates to computers.

That one thing, that matters more than anything else, about which we will talk and think every day of our lives.

life!

play with life! enjoy the uncertainty! create a destiny!

extraordinary women

a thought i liked from an article in today's paper...

in the real world though, extraordinary women do not settle for ordinary men

well, i am waiting to see one of those. one who blows the hell out of my mind, does my job, that is. not many people have been able to do that so far. hardly any girl. none. bring em on.

acronyms!

i like acronyms! there is a sense of surprise about them and like creating funny ones also!

i created couple of them today....

OWOT- Obnoxious Waste of Time

DOB- Depths of Boredom

you see, I am attending a useless dangerous goods course which is irrelevant to me! haha....so that's what I was doing in the class!

a saga of pretense!

you know what you see around when you see people! you see faces pretending to be happy, content with everything that life has thrown on their faces.

Most of us know deep down that we are not living our lives the way we would like to live them, but we carry on in jobs we don't like, people we don't like and the works.

The worst thing is we pretend to be happy, look interested, sound inquisitive where we are getting bored to death and choked with disgust! We pretend we are fine and life is hunky dory.

we just keep getting better at it everyday.

i was sitting in a training session this morning where I did not understand anything. I did not want to understand anything and I was looking at faces in the room. My colleagues were pretending to look interested though even they were getting as bored as I was.

The trainer was pretending to enjoy himself so were other people in the room. I was looking lost and I was lost.

I could not get it. I will not pretend. If I am miserable like I was this morning, I will not hide it from myself.

I cannot enjoy what I do not enjoy. I cannot make myself enjoy things that are no true to my nature, interest, aptitude!

In a sea of pretentious human beings, I refuse to be one. If I am not happy, I cannot pretend to be otherwise.

the calling!

the world needs a change of perspective...write...write books

on optimism...on leadership...on business...on life...write damn it and talk about it!

that's the best way I can reach to most people. I think differently than most people. I need to tell them what I think.

love

once in love, always in love....

break ups do not break the feelings you felt, they only break the relationship because things did not work out...

if you fell in love from the core of your heart, you do not break out of it!

never.

ToTD!

how long will you be like this!!!

i want....

i want.....so i will

GOD

God is a hallucination


hallucination:-

a false notion, belief, or impression; illusion; delusion

FEDEX

just by chance, saw this ad by FedEx...

it said...

we live to deliver!

that's what thousands of employees in FedEx live for....everyday

what do I live to do?

yesterday

"I can't go back to yesterday, because I was a different person then." - Lewis Carroll

wow wow wow...how well said

TOTD!

I will miss Singapore!

what is the most painful disease in the world?

i asked a friend this question and she said, in a few seconds- loneliness!


well, that's something I thought I was the only one who had realized. She surprised me with her answer. I agree with it completely. Loneliness is the greatest curse in this world. People do not talk to people unless they have a reason which can be quantified. There are just too many strangers, unfortunately.

I refuse to let loneliness bother me! I do not think anyone is a stranger. This evening, I spoke to two new people. One from Pakistan and one a local Singaporean. I just spoke to them, just like that, as if we were related. and yes, we are related.

are we not humans beings? do we not share the same planet? do we not crave for similar things- success, love? do we not cry when it pains? do we not yearn for a touch, a hug? we are all the same...

we are all related. there are no strangers.

I choose to believe this. I will talk to whoever I feel like talking to. on the streets, in the train, on the bus, in the office, in the coffee shop, on a trek, in a party, where ever, when ever!

No body does this? I don't care. I will do it. I will not let this disease get me. I may choose solitude sometimes because I want to spend time with myself.

Not loneliness

surviving?????

it's like this....


i was not born to survive!!!!!!!! what the heck

My Philosophy!

when, for whatever reasons, you do not follow your own philosophy, you have no right to preach!

follow your heart and intuition

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Steve jobs

appointments!

I am sick of people wasting my time. I am surprised with a tenacious determination with which people do not keep the time they decide for an appointment! I mean supposedly educated people.

I do not care you bloody waste your time. I won't allow anyone to waste mine from here.

today onwards, when I keep an appointment, I will allow the person I am meeting at most half an hour! I mean if the meeting is fixed at 7 and you do not turn up by 730 at most, I will have left!

screw yourself for all i care! I have no time to waste.

life!

life, after all, is a love story or nothing!

think of the times when you have been happy, blissful, euphoric if you like? for me, they have been the times i have been in love....with someone i love or doing something i love....

everything else is trash!

the essence of life!....by amarocks

the essence of life as i understand it now, is this....


we are dying, any minute. we don't know which minute. we may have only a few hours left to live. living life means doing everything that we want to do, we crave to do, we yearn to do, every minute we are alive.

the essence of life is that we have this one life to live and certain amount of time has been given to us. it will pass, anyways. we can use it, by enjoying every minute or waste it. it takes guts, risk, dogged minded determination and obstinacy to live your life, the way you want.

the key words in the essence of life are "love", "want", "enjoy", "passion", "pleasure". these should be the answers to why we do what we do and where we choose to spend our time. we need to ask ourselves every minute,

if this is my last day, am i doing what i love to do? am i doing what i want to do? am i doing what gives me pleasure? am i enjoying myself? am i doing what i am passionate about?

if the answer to all these questions is yes, then you are living life in its essence.
otherwise, you are just surviving, like animals. and very soon, it will be too late.

a core skill

if there is one thing i have learned in respect to interaction with people, is how to make people feel special about themselves. i love doing it. and it's facile for me.....i love making people feel proud of what they are! feel optimistic about life....i love it

work!

"if you do not feel like jumping out of bed every morning and rushing to resume work, just dump what you are doing and go find another career!!!"

carpe' diem'

seize the day!


Just a moment in this lifetime,
Just a tragedy ahead.
Not knowing where each turn will lead,
Within seconds we might be dead.

Live each day to the fullest,
Do not stop to wonder why.
Do everything your heart desires,
In dreams, reach for the sky.

Surprises at every stop sign,
With its share of wrong ways and dead-ends.
Statistics don't help you with the future,
They only tell you where you've been.

With so many people among us,
There are no certainties.
And all it takes is just one person,
To reroute history.

Dont waste one single moment,
How very precious that they are.
What seems a long way off,
Is really not that far.

Chelsi Holland

i love talking about...

i say quite often that i love talking. Generally, when i talk to someone, there is something very specific i love talking about. i love talking about what people love doing. i love asking them this question and further questions about what they love.

for instance, i went to the ecp beach this evening and got talking to a guy who was fishing. The guy was Chinese so neither of us could understand each other properly, his English being bad. even then, I asked him questions about fishing and he explained till i could bear his English....

i love the look and the expression of people and the way their entire being brightens up when they start talking about what they love doing, about what they really are, about what they have always wanted to be, in the essence...

i love it so much that i wish i could make a living out of....i hate wishing!

R.A.O.A Button

Some times in my life before, I have had to press the R.A.O.A key when nothing seemed to work and I realized I was on the wrong path. times like leaving non-medical, chartered accountancy, CAT preparation during final year...and many such instances...

you see, at this stage of my life, i am doing nothing consistent with my purpose, wasting days one after the another, not doing things I love, as they wait for my time. Because I cannot afford to take a dangerous risk at this stage. I guess I will lose my patience very soon and will press the RAOA key.

and when I press it this time, life will not be the same again....

RAOA: Restart, ALL OVER AGAIN

when it turns on, i will live follow the essence of life

http://hereisyamarocks.blogspot.com/2009/05/essence-of-lifeby-amarocks.html

you will have a many, you will not have me!

i do think about people i have left or who left me on the journey of my life so far. i am a social person. i meet new people and i will keep meeting new people.

But, you know i met some of those who left indelible marks on what I am today. I remember one such person told me once, you will meet a lot of them, but you will not have me!

you were right.

The other day i posted a post which said that i do not miss anything! i do not consciously miss anything. But the truth is, i forget nothing. specially people who have been special to me.

you will keep popping up in my mind now and then. life will move on with new people and new situations......but i will

miss you, always

when something you said, something you did will immediately ring in my mind........i will miss you......my lost ones

rejection!

i can, frankly, take a lot of it. it does not exist because i have nothing to lose and the only possibility if there is, is to gain. someone says no, i did not lose anything for i did not have it in the first place. we miss 100% of the shots we do not take.

i guess, it is one of the critical barometers of success. that is, how much rejection you could take. sometimes, i get tired and dejected and the pace of my efforts slows down, for i am not getting results.

but tomorrow is a new day. and i know, that no matter what the quantum of NOs is, i have to keep going. For

someone, somewhere, is waiting to say, YES

serendipity!

lets create it!

TOTD

To know the road ahead, ask those coming back!

Plateau

the state of my life at this moment

a plateau: a period or state of little or no growth or decline despite activity and efforts

The dictionary also describes it as a stable level of achievement. Bullshit. Stable level of achievement. What the hell is stable level of achievement! you are only as good as your last game! i have not been playing a lot of games these days!

you see, I have a job! i need peanuts also. I am an MBA, I have seen 2-3 countries and met people from many geographies for whatever reasons. Now if i see life perhaps as many people would, i should bloody get married through an arranged marriage off course and create children and live for them! what the heck!

i mean what the hell is stability? i am so freaking restless because i am not growing! i am not contributing! there is nothing called stability! life is not supposed to be stable. okay. one day, if i find a girl i love and who loves me, i might get married, god knows! i may have children also, i am sure it does not take rocket science or CAT problems! but that can't be the reason for my existence! you see, get married and raise kids! what the heck!

i guess, i am disturbed. i am not getting enough sleep! nothing seems to be growing, no part of my life. f****** hell! i am trying. no body can blame me for not trying. one thought i cannot live ever with is that "i did not try"! so i try. i guess i need to try harder and more intensely.

what else? well, i have crossed plateaus before during my story. i will cross them even now. i will keep asking. i will keep trying. i will not give up ever on life. it's not an option.

Plateaus will come and go. I will keep moving.

You see, an ant tries to climb a wall and falls a 100 times, it does not stop. perhaps it's survival depends on not stopping till it succeeds in its mission.

so does mine!

raison d'etre

I need a raison d'etre and I know it's me who needs to define it. it will not come from the heavens.

To be honest, it disturbs me a lot. I mean what the hell am I existing for. What is it that I am brought here to do. I mean, I know that I am supposed to enjoy myself and create maximum contribution by using my gifts. But how? what is going to be my life's work?

it means, from the dictionary: reason or justification for being or existence

i can't live my whole life living through nothing. Not me. I know what I need to do. I just need to take the first steps and not see the whole staircase, as Varun's favorite quote says.

Take those steps. Very soon, it will be too late. Create a difference before you pass away. Nothing else matters.

TOTD

Times of fear
Jug Suraiya

Beware. This newspaper that you are reading is a carrier of the most infectious and contagious, as well as the oldest, disease known to humankind: fear

meaning!

perception is the reality!

you see, when i look at a woman, i may think she looks very beautiful...you may look at the same woman and tell me that i need to evaluate my definition of beautiful.

well, both of us are right. it's just that our system of extracting meaning is different.

well, every input that I receive from the environment goes through something called:

MSOEM- my system of extracting meaning

i will run it through this system and extract meaning. This system consists of almost every cell in the body. why? Because everything that we do or chose not to do has an effect on our mind and body and soul, if you like it. you have your own system, i have my own. No 2 people are same. and no 2 meanings are same. The idea is to run it through your own SOEM and extract meaning, given your faculty of thinking....not that of the general public!

FEAR!

the only thing to fear, is FEAR itself.

attack your fears! go after them! do not let them beat you down! fight them! if you win this fight, there will no stopping you.

never, ever, give up!

for the sake of people who look up to you, who for life's sake, for those who want you to succeed, for the sake of success, to prove that those who don't give up, eventually succeed,


do not ever give up! no matter what!


the darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn

rules!

basic rules, there are none! you make your own, you get what you deserve!

play to win!

if you are not playing to win, don't play! if you lose to a better player, never mind! that's how you will grow to be a better player. but give it all your might! let him not have a easy victory. don't bore him.

those who play to win, like to play with those who play to win. what use is purposeful mediocrity!

TOTD!

pallo's today's fortune on orkut stolen ;)

"Tomorrow's life is too late. Live today"

even i love it!

TOTD!

very soon, it will be too late!

TOTD!

when it goes wrong, blame it on me! when it goes right, distribute the credit!

TOTD!

a thought just landed in my mind ;)

"may you get to spend time with things and people you love." coz, if anything matters, it is.

wow. amen!

i enjoy every minute of insanity!

well, it's like this. i was walking in the rain for over a hour today with people looking at me incredulously! and i was loving it. I also realised what do i mean when i say, 'i am not suffering from insanity, i enjoy every minute of it!"

you see, even as a child, i always wanted to get drenched in the rain but my mom used to stop me and say,'you will catch a flu, fever' or some crap like that.' I always used to be scared and would not go out.

but you see when you accept the insanity and do not protest the charge, you get to do what you want.... :-) haha, yeah.

the feeling of rain droplets on your body....life at its best

cheers!

i miss nothing!

do not miss anything, it's a waste of time! The entire point is you have moved on and the past is past. Some people chose to go on their own way and some times you chose a different direction. Other times, you did not have a choice.

Make the most of the present. With the people and things present in your life, today. Do not waste precious time in missing things and missing people, because you see, they are missing!

i am....

the other day, while just posting a comment on one of the blogs, I commented spontaneously:

'the showman on the stage'

well, this is probably what I am made to do. I am a showman. I am supposed to be on the stage. I am supposed to lead from the front. And hence, a showman gets added to my 'who am I' list

TOTD

After such a long journey... i realized,

i was never on the right track and now its too late to move back...

TOTD!

my today's fortune at orkut says:

"time is the most valuable thing a man can spend"

although I do not agree with the quotes on orkut most times, agree with this one whole heartedly. Time is the greatest gift we can to give to someone. It is the most precious commodity we have after all.

how i wish some people i have cared for in the past also realised this. i wish, i hate to wish.

LIFE:-the greatest gift!

problems?????frustrations????challenges????

big deal


well, all i care about is that it's morning and i am alive. i have seen enough people die, old and young alike. some of them extremely young and talented with a life full of dreams and aspirations right in front of them. you see, people like me.

but for some reason, i have been chosen to be alive by the almighty power. i am blessed and i am grateful for this gift. I will handle anything that comes my way and i will smile, for i am alive


yesssssssssssssssssssssss! i am alive :-) :-) :-)

TOTD!

do not wait for another day!

TOTD!

use the word, 'Sorry' very sparingly. you are putting your integrity on the line. you are also putting the relationship on the line. For, when 'I am sorry' loses its meaning, everything else does...

TOTD!

little knowledge is dangerous!

do not bother to teach a fish to fly!

And amarocks was born!

Sometimes, in my efforts to try to understand that story of my own life, I wonder why the hell it has been this way. Why did I make all the foolish mistakes that I made? why the hell have I been so stupid all my life? why the hell?

why the hell did I have to get close to suicide? fall in love and lose it? make foolish professional judgements?

and then I realise that if all that had not happened, I would have led a mediocre life, been a fearful lad scared of losing love and sticking there even at the cost of my own respect and not been able to look straight into my eyes! I would have led a life doing things I hate to do, with people who killed anything right in me. I would have compromised with a mediocre life and career! I would have been just a normal guy living a hopelessly borin, mediocre and awful life!!

but no, that was not to be. I had to make professional mistakes. I had to reach close to suicide after wasting a lot of time doing things I hated. I had to fall and love and be treated like shit by my girlfriends so I have the guts to not let anyone take me for granted even if it means walking out!!!!

amarocks is the result of all these mistakes and lessons. I had to go through the pains I did to become what I have become and my life is bound to be anything but ordinary! anything but usual.

I promise!

Keep hitting!

I hit a lot. I fail a lot. Sometimes, i hit the bull's eye only 1 out of 100 times. And that 1 time keeps me going. I live for that one time. it pumps me up. Happiness is victory. Keep hitting. For that one time. For the love of the game. if you are not playing to win, don't play! Common, get up. Drink in the frustration and hit again with all your might! may success kiss your feat and applaud your spirit...


there are a few moments that justify that rest of the life. That justify your very existence. I want those moments that justify mine.

The Revolutionary Road!

I watched "the revolutionary road" yesterday. It pained me to the core, like most books I have read do. The movie speaks about living the life you want.

About taking the risk and having the backbone, to lead life the way you want it and get out of the hopeless emptiness that means nothing. There is a character in the movie, a psychiatric patient. He rips off the seeming sanity of his hosts, the wheelers when he comes to meet them the second them and they have given up on their plans to go to Paris! Astounding, outstanding!

It takes backbone to lead your life the way you want it. It takes guts to leave the security of what you have to walk in direction of your dreams. It takes guts to put everything on the line. It takes courage to persist in the face of failure.

It is not unrealistic. What is unrealistic is the way we live lives. Killing ourselves every single day being in jobs we don't like, with people we don't like, anything we don't like. That is unrealistic.

there is only one success in this world. to live your life the way you want it. Pursuing everything you love every single day, giving yourself pleasure out of things you do and people you meet. You see, as i said the other day, like an orgasm, as intense as pleasurable.

it takes guts to lead your life the way you want. nothing else. everything else is a farce, sham, shame and pity. i am a part of all this, at present.

Success!

The open secret of Success is the ability to go from one setback to another, without losing enthusiasm! and keep hitting tirelessly, till you hit the bull's eye!

Press on!

The state of Indian Politics!

dear indian voter, here are your choices of a leader. Sushree Mulayam Singh (ban English, ban computers etc.)/ Shri Advani or Modi or anything BJP (we can't catch terrorists so we will kill and maim anything muslim; watever we say, Mandir Vahin banega/ Mayavati Ben (IT Kaun? Economy kaun saab? dalit is india); and the incumbent PM (although not inherently bad a guy, we will not assert anything)....god bless India, god bless you!


well, it is almost the eve of Indian elections and unfortunately none of the leaders that we have to pick inspires confidence.

indians and chinese!

every 5th man (or the woman) in the world is a Chinese and every 6th man is an Indian.

The problem with the 5th is he does not care about the world and with the 6th one is that he has not learned to mind his own business!

TOTD!

from one of my friend's page on orkut


When the time comes, for this mortal life to end,
May I die on the battlefield fighting courageously

My Favorite words, as I acknowledge their meaning

These are some of the most powerful words in English Language. I love them. They may have multiple meanings and they do. I am including their meanings, the way I like to and would use these words. I have added stuff to the meaning, by the way, where required. otherwise, the source is dictionary.com

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Conviction: A fixed or firm belief

Determination: the act of coming to a decision or of fixing or settling a purpose

Will: the faculty of conscious and especially of deliberate action; the power of control the mind has over its own actions. The power of choosing one's own actions; the act or process of using or asserting one's choice; volition

Perseverance: steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, esp. in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement

Tenacity: with the original meaning of adhesiveness, as of glue, is a dogged and determined holding on. Whether used literally or figuratively it has favorable implications: a bulldog quality of tenacity; the tenacity of one's memory

Belief: confidence in the truth or existence of something not immediately susceptible to rigorous proof

Selfishness: The quality or state of being selfish; exclusive regard to one's own interest or happiness; that supreme self-love or self-preference which leads a person to direct his purposes to the advancement of his own interest, power, or happiness. A selfish person follows his own happiness and expects others to follow their own. He does not decide for others. He does not interfere in others' lives. He lives his own. We are all born to be selfish. But somewhere, we are maimed by idiots by think that we are not entitled to live our lives and do what they think is right for us

Power: ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something

Talent: a special ability or aptitude

Aptitude: capability; ability; innate or acquired capacity for something; talent

Attitude: A state of mind or a feeling; disposition; a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways

Dream: an aspiration; goal; aim, a fire that does not let you sleep

Fantasy: imagination, esp. when extravagant and unrestrained; an imagined or conjured up sequence fulfilling a psychological need; daydream; The creative imagination; unrestrained fancy

Beauty: the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest)

Pleasure: enjoyment or satisfaction derived from what is to one's liking; gratification; delight.

Synonyms:

happiness, gladness, delectation. Pleasure, enjoyment, delight, joy refer to the feeling of being pleased and happy. Pleasure is the general term: to take pleasure in beautiful scenery. Enjoyment is a quiet sense of well-being and pleasurable satisfaction: enjoyment at sitting in the shade on a warm day. Delight is a high degree of pleasure, usually leading to active expression of it: delight at receiving a hoped-for letter. Joy is a feeling of delight so deep and so lasting that one radiates happiness and expresses it spontaneously: joy at unexpected good news. 5. voluptuousness. preference, wish, inclination, predilection WOW

Orgasm: most intense pleasure.
life should ideally be an orgasm. One after another. Work should be orgasmic. Pleasurable. Exciting. Something that brings intense sensation to the body and mind. The people we meet. The places we visit. The things we do. Everything about life, every moment, like an orgasm.

Fun: something that provides mirth or amusement; a source of enjoyment, amusement, or pleasure. You see, what I mean.

Ecstasy: rapturous delight; delight, bliss, elation. Ecstasy, rapture, transport, exaltation share a sense of being taken or moved out of one's self or one's normal state, and entering a state of intensified or heightened feeling. Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling. Rapture shares the power of ecstasy but most often refers to an elevated sensation of bliss or delight, either carnal or spiritual like the rapture of first love

Love: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. now, that person could be any one. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness; To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming

Hope: the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best

Enjoy: to experience with joy; take pleasure in

Rock (verb, rock you!): to be moved or swayed powerfully

Dignity: The quality or state of being worthy of esteem or respect

Purpose: The object toward which one strives or for which something exists; "And ever those, who would enjoyment gain/Must find it in the purpose they pursue" (Sarah Josepha Hale)

Howard Roark!

Keller to Roark from the Fountainhead:

"Roark, it's just a building. It's not the combination of divine ecstacy, holy sacrament (something regarded as possessing a sacred character or mysterious significance) and sexual pleasure that you make it!!!"

Roark- "is it not?"


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Another situation in the book where Gail Wynand is about to lose everything he owns, everything he has made in his life, in his fight to defend Howard Roark and he comes to him and asks:-

Roark, "do you want me to give in?"

and Roark says, "I want you to hold out even if it costs you everything you own"

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Howard Roark is the epitome of character of the selfish obstinacy to live your life on your terms. Bravo.

A message on the Gospel and a stadium!

I just came back from Singapore Indoor stadium. I went there to attend a talk by world known evangelist Mr. Bonnke. Looking at the gathering, it is clear that he is world known.

The stadium was packed with close to 15000 people. Over this weekend, about 50000 people would have received the message of the gospel from him. By the way, an evangelist is a preacher of the gospel.

But, I did not get a whiff of what he was talking about.

I can't believe it. All right, I did not go there because I wanted to receive the message of the Jesus. I did not either receive it.

I went there because I was curious to know what makes this guy so famous and i will now try.

Religion sells. Weakness sells. Religion appeals to the weakness in human beings and it sells. He told us that all of us are in cages and Jesus will release us tonight. He told us that Jesus gave his holy blood for all of us and he bought our souls with it. He gave the ultimate sacrifice. He said that tonight is the night of salvation and we will go home on wings. I believe most people would take public buses back home. I did, although I did not believe a word.

You see, the entire point is that these folks discourage curiosity because they cannot satisfy it. You ask them a question and they will counter question with something like, " what will you say that Jesus will ask you, where were you at the time of salvation!!!!!!!!!!" now handle that!

The audience was mesmerized. Most of them were grooving with their eyes closed and hands in the air. They were grooving left and right, singing, "Jesus is our lord". Wow! I was amazed.

Well, nothing wrong with it. He said that fame, money are wordly things we should not aspire to. So is sex or women for that matter. Well, may be.

I am not making a point about Jesus. I am making a point about religion. Any religion. It makes you weak and then it sells.

My final point. Close to 50000 people spent time and money to hear Mr. Bonnke speak. To me, it was trash. But people heard and they clapped and they grooved and at least pretend to enjoy themselves!

I have a lot of say. Things that will make human beings proud of themselves. Self-confidence, power and belief in our own ability is what I can sell and I believe it is my duty to sell it.


The day will come when hundreds of people will line up to listen to me and I will not leave them weak by the end it all. I will leave them powerful and ignited. I will leave them with greater ability. I will leave them with their heads high.


Never bow your head, always hold it high...
look the world in the eye

GOD

there is no GOD, there never was. God bless you!

TOTD!

on Barack Obama:-

you just want people of his calibre to lead

by someone who met him as an ordinary man much before he ran for presidency

i know why i am doing this!

most people do not know why they do what they do. i am sorry.

i do.

TOTD!

questions. The hallmark of interest. Those who ask questions will find the knowledge they seek. They will question the status quo. They will bring about the change.

ask the most basic of questions. ask with enough intensity and persistence, and you will be granted.

10 April 2009!

Alright, okay, turned 28 years young :-)

Happy Birthday amar/rocky/amarocks/jugnu.....watever they choose to call you as long as you justify your existence!

have an exciting year!

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The birth day turned about to be very interesting. Starting with receiving my MBA certificate to a lunch with friends and following up with a movie. Full of pleasant activities. And amidst all this, some expected and some pleasantly unexpected calls. It's so nice to know that so many people thought of me today and called just to convey that they did.

Thank God for everything and every one who makes my life beautiful and worth living.

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The celebrations are over for now! Back to life. There is a lot to be done.

ROCK ON

it's a daring adventure or nothing